The trick to balancing life and decreasing stress in your life lies in a 20-minute exercise each day:
You already have systems in your home whether you realize it or not. Good or bad, every routine is a system. Your life is full of them. What we need to do is determine which ones are serving us and which ones are obstructing us.
For example, a mother of three is tired of coming home each evening after work and struggling to figure out what to put together for supper. There is only 45 minutes until she has to start chauffeuring the kids to their various extra curricular activities so she needs to hurry but she doesn't want to feed them wieners and Kraft dinner again tonight.
Its time to evaluate the system that is currently in place because it is certainly not serving her.
So let's look at the 7 steps to systematizing anything in your home to work towards a more successful system for her.
Step 1: Determine the end result that you want to reach. It must be specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time bound.
Step 2: Determine what obstacles are holding you back. Think about the internal and external barriers present.
I'm not sure if there are others out there like me, but I tend to have most of my epiphanies while I am showering. I don't know what it is, the hot relaxing water enveloping me? The quiet few minutes alone before the chaos of the day begins? Or maybe its because I slow my brain down just enough to really enjoy the experience.
Regardless, along with my epiphanies come those nagging thoughts that I must not forget to do, buy or supply, but have somehow forgotten every day for the last week and a half somewhere between the shower and reaching the kitchen where my to do and shopping lists live.
I am a visual person, I remember through writing things down and seeing them regularly. Everything else is like the dog on the movie "UP", ...Squirrel!
If its not written down, its gone from memory within moments as my thoughts dart to some other important detail for my day.
Where was I going with this? Oh yeah, forgetting things. So I got tired of running dripping wet from the shower every morning into the kitchen to write everything down until I noticed a dry erase marker my ever so tidy daughter left on my bedroom dresser one morning. It stopped me on my worn path from the shower, and woohoo! Holy shit, how had this never crossed my mind before?
I now have a dry erase marker in every bathroom. The mirror is directly across from the toilet! I can see and be reminded of things several times a day and while I do my hair and makeup. The osmosis is awesome! I have now added affirmations to my mirror as well. More bang for my buck.
I recently walked in and found beautiful comments and affirmations on my daughter's bedroom mirror. It was a very proud mom moment. Who doesn't need a little help remembering things right?
1) Complete an honest examination of every thing on their plate right now. What commitments can you step away from (at least for the time being)?
2) Determine what items on your "To Do" list can wait and what can be delegated.
3) Prioritize the top three things you need to accomplish for that day and pat yourself on the back for completing those instead of shaming yourself for what you didn't complete that day.
4) Take some time for yourself each day. Even if that means simply locking the bathroom door and hiding in the dark for 5 minutes to breathe. (Yes, I have done this many times. As an introvert I need alone time to recharge.
5) Join a community of women just like you, dealing with the same struggles. A local group is fantastic but lets get real here, on-line is more accessible when you're short of time already. I welcome you to join and help build just such a community at https://www.facebook.com/managermomclub/
Professional Organizer, Married Mother of One Daughter in Competitive Cheerleading, Basset Hound Mother and Blackbelt in TaeKwonDo. Registered Veterinary Technician By Day, Business Owner and Membership Creator by Night. Helicopter Mom Suckered Into Every Possible Committee She Comes Across (5 or 6 I think right now with varying degrees of time commitment). Avid Learner, Can Always Be Found Reading or Watching Webinars on Organizing or Business. Also a Member of a Ridiculous Number of Professional Associations for Access to Even More Learning and Like -Minded Obsessives and Thinks That Completing Organizing and Business Certifications is Actually Fun.